Base on ancient Chinese wisdom, our happiness are depending on whether we are having right views about life.Also how much we have put these view into practice in our daily life.
Below are some of the right views that will promote our overall happiness
1。Believe that everyone is originally have a good heart.坚信人之初，性本善。
2。No matter what we face, we must always understand the root causes面对任何境界，时时明白原因
3。Must follow the great sage's teaching , not follow our worries and bad habits要随圣贤教诲，不随顺自己的烦恼和习气。
4。Everything are subject to cause and effect.if we can know the root causes and consequences of everything,then we are very close to have the wisdom. The root cause is morality.「物有本末，事有终始，知所前后，则近道矣」。根=德行
5。Only if we can master our EMOTION,then we are able to master our FUTURE.掌握情绪，才能掌握未来。
6。The most important question to ask is"whether we have done rightfully? whether we are good enough? ' We must not expect others to be right and good first. As when we have tried our best to do our responsibilities and not expecting anything from others, we won't have complaints. 自己对不对，自己好不好，最重要，先不要求别人。正己而不求于人，则无怨。
7。We should look for ways to achieve success. Don't find excuses for failure.宁为成功找方法，不为失败找理由。
8。We ourselve must lead by example and let our good example be our children's guide. If the father is kind, the son will be filial,the whole family will be prosperous. Among the good value to be passed on are: filial piety, hard work, diligent and obedient.以身教与德行来承传家风。「子孝父心宽，家和万事兴」
「孝悌为传家之本，
勤俭为持家之本，
谨慎为保家之本，
和顺为齐家之本。」
「若真修道人，不见时间过」
If we accuse each others, it will be lose lose situation
「各自责，则天翻地覆」
The most blessed one are those who are willing to accept noble teaching from the sage
福在受谏， 肯接受圣贤教诲的人，最有福。
The happiest person is who not commit any guilty actions. Those who are sincere in their actions will enjoy true happiness
「大乐莫如无愧怍，至诚乃得经纶」
Forget about others' illwill or bad speech/actions to us. Do not ill treat others. Do not indulge ourselve with worldly enjoyments, be kind to every living beings
「不念旧恶，不恶人，不染世乐，慈悲一切。」
We should reflect if our morality have touched our subordinates?
1) Have we lead by example
2)Do we take care our subordinate as we treat our own people?
3) Have we seized every opportunity to guide/teach them?
反省自己的德行，有否感动下属？自己是否有做到君，亲，师？
君：是否有以身作则，树立好榜样？
亲：是否有爱护下属如自己人一样？
师：是否有把握时机引导他们，教诲他们？
9。We must always care for the harmony for all. Do not forget our 'initial heart'.The whole 'Di Zi Gui' teach us to be controlable on our bad habits. Eg when our parents scolded us, we must learn to accept their scolding. Every couple when married are having intention to bring happiness to their spouse, so do not forget the 'initial heart' by getting divorce easily, and cause injuries in kids. Lately many incidents of teenagers commit suicide were from single parent family. They have conveyed a message that they need a warm family.
A mother inlaw should regards her daugther in law as her own daughter.
A daughter inlaw must treat her mother inlaw as her own mother.
If a wife quarrel with her husband, she should not go back to her parents house to complain. instead should make sure she has done her duties in managing her family.
以大局为重，不忘初心。
弟子规，从头到尾都教育我们忍住习性。如父母责，须顺承。
许多夫妻当初结婚，都是为了要给对方幸福，所以要「不忘初心」不要轻易离婚，伤害无辜的孩子。最近，常发生单亲家庭的孩子自杀，他们只期待一个温暖的家。
好婆婆把媳妇视如己出的爱心。
好媳妇把婆婆当自己的妈妈看，和先生发生吵架，不能回去娘家。把家里打理好。
10。Whenever we encounter problems or anything do not match our wish, we should try to ask ourselve, which area shall I improve? where is my weakness? How shall I improve? Reflect on our actions and forgive others. When we realise that our kids' bad behavior is coping our behabior. When we realised that it is not easy for us to rectify the bad bahavior,then we will be more tolerance and accepting our kids. Only if we WANT to CHANGE,the we CAN GUIDE our kids to change.
When we understand the person growing background or we know that they have no chance to learn good morality and hence commit wrong actions/speech. When we started to compassionate them and not culculative with them, we forgive them for hurting our feeling.
By disolving the conflicts, we are creating good karma. If everyone blame ourselve, instead of others, the world will be a peaceful place for all.
行有不得，反求诸己。
反省自己，原谅对方。当我们发现孩子的习气是拷贝了我们，当我们了解要改变自己的习气并非易事，我们会更包容及接纳孩子，唯有自己想改变，才能引导孩子改变。
当我们了解一个人的成长背景，或他们因为无缘接触善知识而造业，我们因为悲悯他们的处境，而不跟他们计较，他们言行举止上对我们造成的伤害，原谅他们。
化解冲突，结善缘。「各自责，天清地宁」
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