Why we worries or afraid? As majority of our worries would not happen.If it happen, something worse will happen. Eg a young kid scare to visit dentist. However the mother dragged him.however, when they reached the appointment was canceled.
Why worries?
1) Some people like worrying.
Eg people like to watch soap opera as they are eager to know what is going to happen next week.Some people like to go for death drop to scare themselves.
Fear is magnetic, it draws what u afraid of to you.What you fear of is going to happen as you make it to happen.If you want to avoid what you scare of, don't be afraid.
2) Looking of the future and think of bad things.
Some people scare to take flight as scare of explosion by terrorists.However Ajahn Brahm think differently.He regards if that tragedy really happen, it has 4 benefits
1)instant cremation
2)cheap Creamation
3)can make money from insurance
4)the death place is so close to heaven.
Look at the future with POSITIVE ATTITUDE, in order to attract success.
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss,stupid is blessing.
3)Worries arisen from negative attitude towards life
Fear may cause us over reaction on certain things, may turn small things to big things.eg in forest during night time, heard a sound, thought is tiger or bear, however it is just a mouse.
Do not try to counter react with your emotion. Find correspondence physical feeling and massage the discomfort areas in your body. Once physical feeling disappeared, emotion feeling also disappeared.
Simple mindfulness technique will help to relieve anxieties too. Be mindful when you notice the bad experience / trauma/ phobia. Catch them very early,it is easier to stop.
Feel body sensation and be calm
Sing a happy song.
Relax all muscles iN your body, feel relax then move to another parts of the body.
There are 2 Chicken farmers. The first farmer bring back the chicken poo to his house everyday. The second farmer collect the eggs, eat the eggs and sell the rest. He collect the chicken poo and Let it rotten and become fertilizer.
We are like the first farmer if we use to remember Bad things and others' mistakes. If we always remember wonderful things then we are like second farmer.
If we focus on mistake, we will make more mistakes. If we focus on success, we will be success.
Wellington College in UK make meditation a compulsory subject as it will increase the result.
If we control so much or fight so much, we will feel tired and frustrated, will give up too. Hence must know how to relax or rest. May find a time our room ( no SMS, no hand phone etc )
A boy did badly in his exam, Ajahn Brahm praise him as bodhisattva (a person who motivated by great compassion), as being the last in the class, he sacrificed his own happiness for others. However Ajahn Brahm told him not to be selfish, next year must let others to be Bodhisattva.
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Monday, September 26, 2011
How to change our destiny ?
In Chinese character,the word destiny (命) if we break up the word it is consist of 3 words, 人,一,叩 meaning that once a man bow down to pay respect, his destiny will be changed.As the action of bow down to pay respect is supported by filial piety or respect.Once a person has these 2 attitude, his destiny will change automatically. Hence it is important to educate our children with correct thinking. Do we know what are our kids thinking now? Are their thought kind or bad? May be we should ask ourselves this question too.
Our life must like eating sugar cane from the top, when we eat closer to the root, the sweeter the taste. In our earlier part of life, we should work hard (including educate our kids properly).During the old age, enjoy the harvest.
Nowadays, we celebrate birthday with our kids even they are 2 or 3 years old. This is wrong as they are not contributing to the society yet.Actually it is an action which should not be encouraged. In fact, our birthday is our mother's suffering date,hence should thank our mother for bringing us to this world and for her hardship in delivering us also in bringing up us.
If we have bad habits, it is hard to change. However, we must take full responsibilities to change.
Many parents complaints that they teenagers are rebellious to them. Kids must be given proper education (eg instilling good moral values)since young age, then it is easier to teach.Just like playing badminton, we must take the shuttle cock when it is high. If the shuttle cock
is closer to the floor, it is harder to take.
曾国藩, Zeng Guo Fan, a famous Chinese scholar, every day did 3 things
1) Wrote daily on whoever or whatever inspired him,ie learn from whoever he met.
2) Read history and learnt from the ancestors.
3) Soak his feet in warm water daily. This action can maintain a healthy body. With a healthy body then a person can perform all his role well.
A Japanese entrepreneur who gave up his business and become a monk, ever said 6 things to be diligent in
1) Give effort not lesser than others?
Normally we don't know we are blessed, until we lost something we have.The more effort we put, the higher abilities we have.
2) Be thankful as being alive.
How many people we should be thankful? From the rice we eat, the clothes we wear etc.There are so many people involved throughout the whole processes, hence the people we need to thank are too many.
Have we ever think of others' kindness?
Any hatred or ill wills on others, is like rubbish that should be throw away.
3) Always retrospect
Every day retrospect,any mistake I have done today? Whee should I change, so that I can progress? Have my wisdom upgraded? Have my worries reduced? if I have learn well today, my wisdom will be upgraded.If no learning, I will be remain at same level.If I am not learning well, I will be down graded.
4)Be humble
5)Always doing good deeds in order to benefit others.
eg give a warm smile to others and suitable greetings,queuing up, offer our seats in public
transport to those needy.
6)Do not have sentimental worries.
This can be done by not worrying unnecessarily. Do not sighed easily.Every thought is a seed for the fruit that are going to be reap in future,hence should think positively.Hence if we want to know future result, we should ask ourselves how much effort, we really put in?
Theb result of our job =Model of our thinking X passion X ability
Those who are loyal, will think of ways to do things in better ways.This will increase extra credits to their life.
Always think of others, always respect others.Eg if we care about our mother earth, we will use both side of the papers We will even used old model of hand phone for 7 to 8 years. This is the virtue of being thrifty.
Teacher Chai asked us to give ways to other when we leave the hall later,But do not to the extend that thinking of wanting accumulate good merits, both side also refuse to move and block the traffic.For those who go first, should say thank you to those who give ways.
We should treasure everything, including switching off light whenever we leave a room, check tap water and all switch for lights/fans are off when we are leaving our house.These good habits will internalize to be kind hearted which will benefit us for our whole life.
We should treat all our kids equally, without discriminations. Those we ignored, will feel inferior.Those we pamper, will be arrogant.
Don't differentiate, not attach, as all are 1 family.
We should extend our care to every living beings, eg before pouring hot water into a mug, make sure there is no ants inside the mug.While walking, watch our step,so that we will not step on any insects.As every living beings are scare of dying too. Master Hong Yi, used to rock his rocking chair before he lied on it as scared he would kill any insect accidentally.
We must not spreading any bad news, instead must propagate kind actions.
Worry about future is an irresponsible act as we ignore our current duty.
The above is talk given by Teacher Chai Li Xu at Chung Hwa Cultural Centre on 19.9.2011
Our life must like eating sugar cane from the top, when we eat closer to the root, the sweeter the taste. In our earlier part of life, we should work hard (including educate our kids properly).During the old age, enjoy the harvest.
Nowadays, we celebrate birthday with our kids even they are 2 or 3 years old. This is wrong as they are not contributing to the society yet.Actually it is an action which should not be encouraged. In fact, our birthday is our mother's suffering date,hence should thank our mother for bringing us to this world and for her hardship in delivering us also in bringing up us.
If we have bad habits, it is hard to change. However, we must take full responsibilities to change.
Many parents complaints that they teenagers are rebellious to them. Kids must be given proper education (eg instilling good moral values)since young age, then it is easier to teach.Just like playing badminton, we must take the shuttle cock when it is high. If the shuttle cock
is closer to the floor, it is harder to take.
曾国藩, Zeng Guo Fan, a famous Chinese scholar, every day did 3 things
1) Wrote daily on whoever or whatever inspired him,ie learn from whoever he met.
2) Read history and learnt from the ancestors.
3) Soak his feet in warm water daily. This action can maintain a healthy body. With a healthy body then a person can perform all his role well.
A Japanese entrepreneur who gave up his business and become a monk, ever said 6 things to be diligent in
1) Give effort not lesser than others?
Normally we don't know we are blessed, until we lost something we have.The more effort we put, the higher abilities we have.
2) Be thankful as being alive.
How many people we should be thankful? From the rice we eat, the clothes we wear etc.There are so many people involved throughout the whole processes, hence the people we need to thank are too many.
Have we ever think of others' kindness?
Any hatred or ill wills on others, is like rubbish that should be throw away.
3) Always retrospect
Every day retrospect,any mistake I have done today? Whee should I change, so that I can progress? Have my wisdom upgraded? Have my worries reduced? if I have learn well today, my wisdom will be upgraded.If no learning, I will be remain at same level.If I am not learning well, I will be down graded.
4)Be humble
5)Always doing good deeds in order to benefit others.
eg give a warm smile to others and suitable greetings,queuing up, offer our seats in public
transport to those needy.
6)Do not have sentimental worries.
This can be done by not worrying unnecessarily. Do not sighed easily.Every thought is a seed for the fruit that are going to be reap in future,hence should think positively.Hence if we want to know future result, we should ask ourselves how much effort, we really put in?
Theb result of our job =Model of our thinking X passion X ability
Those who are loyal, will think of ways to do things in better ways.This will increase extra credits to their life.
Always think of others, always respect others.Eg if we care about our mother earth, we will use both side of the papers We will even used old model of hand phone for 7 to 8 years. This is the virtue of being thrifty.
Teacher Chai asked us to give ways to other when we leave the hall later,But do not to the extend that thinking of wanting accumulate good merits, both side also refuse to move and block the traffic.For those who go first, should say thank you to those who give ways.
We should treasure everything, including switching off light whenever we leave a room, check tap water and all switch for lights/fans are off when we are leaving our house.These good habits will internalize to be kind hearted which will benefit us for our whole life.
We should treat all our kids equally, without discriminations. Those we ignored, will feel inferior.Those we pamper, will be arrogant.
Don't differentiate, not attach, as all are 1 family.
We should extend our care to every living beings, eg before pouring hot water into a mug, make sure there is no ants inside the mug.While walking, watch our step,so that we will not step on any insects.As every living beings are scare of dying too. Master Hong Yi, used to rock his rocking chair before he lied on it as scared he would kill any insect accidentally.
We must not spreading any bad news, instead must propagate kind actions.
Worry about future is an irresponsible act as we ignore our current duty.
The above is talk given by Teacher Chai Li Xu at Chung Hwa Cultural Centre on 19.9.2011
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Believe,faith and superstition - talk by Ajahn Brahm
-Always ask, why we do this?
There are 4 men soaking in rain, they are called wealth, success,peace and harmony. If you can only invite a person in, whom will you invite?The correct answer is harmony, as when harmony is exist in our house, the wealth, success and peace will follow too.
Power of chanting (praying) really works.There was an incident, that heavy rains stopped few hours before a ceremony, the sky was clear ,can even saw the moon. After the ceremony, the area was flooded.
Never trust fortune teller, as they cannot tell their fortune.One day a man came to see Ajahn Chah and he wished Ajahn can predict his future. Ajahn Chah held his palm and said ' your future is uncertain'. this is because the future is up to us. what we want will make it happen.
Steve Jobs, the co founder of Apple Inc,who was sacked from his company, had depression for a week. However due to his passion in IT, he set up another co PIxar Animation Studio.
You are the creator of your universal.
The most terrible ghost is bottle ghost, as cannot talk clearly, unable to walk in straight line and can kill oneself while driving.
A good monk will have little possessions.
Are you really ,really safe?As it is predicted 2012 will be end of the world. Ajahn said it won't come, as human like to worry.
when we feel stress, we should REST. after resting, it is easier to bare or pick up the burden. Burden becomes lighter and easier to cope.If it is too heavy to hold, and you do not know how to put it down, just LET GO.
It is not true that the more time you spend, the more job will be done. Meditation can improve the efficiency. It is because you rest your mind while meditation. meditation is the highest Dana you can give.
How to change stubborn person?
use negative phychology.
Ajahn said we need not to scare of ghost. If dreamed about ghost, we must ask the ghost for
Lottery number as the number will come out in normal circumstance.He even told us about Tsunami Ghost. A Thai lady had a bad dream, a lady who was a victim of tsunami, asked her to call her mother and informed her mother that she had been killed during the Tsunami. She told her her mother telephone no also asked her help to bury her, so that her mother won't be sad when see her body. the Thai lady managed to call the lady's mother and told her the incident.Later, the Thai lady dreamt about the deceased lady again, she gave her a lottery no. she bought the no, and she really won.Ajahn said next time if anyone who got any lottery no from any ghost via dream, please let him know as his temple need funds.
There are 4 men soaking in rain, they are called wealth, success,peace and harmony. If you can only invite a person in, whom will you invite?The correct answer is harmony, as when harmony is exist in our house, the wealth, success and peace will follow too.
Power of chanting (praying) really works.There was an incident, that heavy rains stopped few hours before a ceremony, the sky was clear ,can even saw the moon. After the ceremony, the area was flooded.
Never trust fortune teller, as they cannot tell their fortune.One day a man came to see Ajahn Chah and he wished Ajahn can predict his future. Ajahn Chah held his palm and said ' your future is uncertain'. this is because the future is up to us. what we want will make it happen.
Steve Jobs, the co founder of Apple Inc,who was sacked from his company, had depression for a week. However due to his passion in IT, he set up another co PIxar Animation Studio.
You are the creator of your universal.
The most terrible ghost is bottle ghost, as cannot talk clearly, unable to walk in straight line and can kill oneself while driving.
A good monk will have little possessions.
Are you really ,really safe?As it is predicted 2012 will be end of the world. Ajahn said it won't come, as human like to worry.
when we feel stress, we should REST. after resting, it is easier to bare or pick up the burden. Burden becomes lighter and easier to cope.If it is too heavy to hold, and you do not know how to put it down, just LET GO.
It is not true that the more time you spend, the more job will be done. Meditation can improve the efficiency. It is because you rest your mind while meditation. meditation is the highest Dana you can give.
How to change stubborn person?
use negative phychology.
Ajahn said we need not to scare of ghost. If dreamed about ghost, we must ask the ghost for
Lottery number as the number will come out in normal circumstance.He even told us about Tsunami Ghost. A Thai lady had a bad dream, a lady who was a victim of tsunami, asked her to call her mother and informed her mother that she had been killed during the Tsunami. She told her her mother telephone no also asked her help to bury her, so that her mother won't be sad when see her body. the Thai lady managed to call the lady's mother and told her the incident.Later, the Thai lady dreamt about the deceased lady again, she gave her a lottery no. she bought the no, and she really won.Ajahn said next time if anyone who got any lottery no from any ghost via dream, please let him know as his temple need funds.
Friday, September 16, 2011
Isogai Dynamic therapy - a method for controlling the health on a life long basis
The above mentioned isthe title of a book by Kimiyoshi Isogai / Yoshihito Isogai.
this book was introduced by my friend, Sally. Her sister has suffered from insonmia, as she used to wake up to urine in the middle of the night. she can't fell into sleep after she woke up.However, since she practiced the methods introduced under Isogai Dynamic Theraphy, she has no insonmia problem as she can sleep throughout the night, without waking up to urine.Now she has a radiant look.
This therapy work without any medication.
the theory of treatmentbis to keep bone healthy by correcting unbalance scatic joints.
According to the book imbalance between the left and right legs is the fundamental cause of illness.When the left leg is longer, one will have illness related to digestive system or/and urinary and reproductive system
this book was introduced by my friend, Sally. Her sister has suffered from insonmia, as she used to wake up to urine in the middle of the night. she can't fell into sleep after she woke up.However, since she practiced the methods introduced under Isogai Dynamic Theraphy, she has no insonmia problem as she can sleep throughout the night, without waking up to urine.Now she has a radiant look.
This therapy work without any medication.
the theory of treatmentbis to keep bone healthy by correcting unbalance scatic joints.
According to the book imbalance between the left and right legs is the fundamental cause of illness.When the left leg is longer, one will have illness related to digestive system or/and urinary and reproductive system
Chinese Traditional therapy to cure cough
1) boiled white radish water
For cough that persist for days,unable to fall into sleep.Every night cut half of a radish, cut into slices. Boiled until the radish is cooked.Sieves the water. drink the water when it is cooling down. cough will be reduced.Cough may cured completely if drink continuously for few days.
2) If cough due to ashtma and non stop. put some oilment onto front and sides of the neck. the cough will be relieved.
For cough that persist for days,unable to fall into sleep.Every night cut half of a radish, cut into slices. Boiled until the radish is cooked.Sieves the water. drink the water when it is cooling down. cough will be reduced.Cough may cured completely if drink continuously for few days.
2) If cough due to ashtma and non stop. put some oilment onto front and sides of the neck. the cough will be relieved.
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