Why we worries or afraid? As majority of our worries would not happen.If it happen, something worse will happen. Eg a young kid scare to visit dentist. However the mother dragged him.however, when they reached the appointment was canceled.
Why worries?
1) Some people like worrying.
Eg people like to watch soap opera as they are eager to know what is going to happen next week.Some people like to go for death drop to scare themselves.
Fear is magnetic, it draws what u afraid of to you.What you fear of is going to happen as you make it to happen.If you want to avoid what you scare of, don't be afraid.
2) Looking of the future and think of bad things.
Some people scare to take flight as scare of explosion by terrorists.However Ajahn Brahm think differently.He regards if that tragedy really happen, it has 4 benefits
1)instant cremation
2)cheap Creamation
3)can make money from insurance
4)the death place is so close to heaven.
Look at the future with POSITIVE ATTITUDE, in order to attract success.
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss,stupid is blessing.
3)Worries arisen from negative attitude towards life
Fear may cause us over reaction on certain things, may turn small things to big things.eg in forest during night time, heard a sound, thought is tiger or bear, however it is just a mouse.
Do not try to counter react with your emotion. Find correspondence physical feeling and massage the discomfort areas in your body. Once physical feeling disappeared, emotion feeling also disappeared.
Simple mindfulness technique will help to relieve anxieties too. Be mindful when you notice the bad experience / trauma/ phobia. Catch them very early,it is easier to stop.
Feel body sensation and be calm
Sing a happy song.
Relax all muscles iN your body, feel relax then move to another parts of the body.
There are 2 Chicken farmers. The first farmer bring back the chicken poo to his house everyday. The second farmer collect the eggs, eat the eggs and sell the rest. He collect the chicken poo and Let it rotten and become fertilizer.
We are like the first farmer if we use to remember Bad things and others' mistakes. If we always remember wonderful things then we are like second farmer.
If we focus on mistake, we will make more mistakes. If we focus on success, we will be success.
Wellington College in UK make meditation a compulsory subject as it will increase the result.
If we control so much or fight so much, we will feel tired and frustrated, will give up too. Hence must know how to relax or rest. May find a time our room ( no SMS, no hand phone etc )
A boy did badly in his exam, Ajahn Brahm praise him as bodhisattva (a person who motivated by great compassion), as being the last in the class, he sacrificed his own happiness for others. However Ajahn Brahm told him not to be selfish, next year must let others to be Bodhisattva.
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