In Chinese character,the word destiny (命) if we break up the word it is consist of 3 words, 人,一,叩 meaning that once a man bow down to pay respect, his destiny will be changed.As the action of bow down to pay respect is supported by filial piety or respect.Once a person has these 2 attitude, his destiny will change automatically. Hence it is important to educate our children with correct thinking. Do we know what are our kids thinking now? Are their thought kind or bad? May be we should ask ourselves this question too.
Our life must like eating sugar cane from the top, when we eat closer to the root, the sweeter the taste. In our earlier part of life, we should work hard (including educate our kids properly).During the old age, enjoy the harvest.
Nowadays, we celebrate birthday with our kids even they are 2 or 3 years old. This is wrong as they are not contributing to the society yet.Actually it is an action which should not be encouraged. In fact, our birthday is our mother's suffering date,hence should thank our mother for bringing us to this world and for her hardship in delivering us also in bringing up us.
If we have bad habits, it is hard to change. However, we must take full responsibilities to change.
Many parents complaints that they teenagers are rebellious to them. Kids must be given proper education (eg instilling good moral values)since young age, then it is easier to teach.Just like playing badminton, we must take the shuttle cock when it is high. If the shuttle cock
is closer to the floor, it is harder to take.
曾国藩, Zeng Guo Fan, a famous Chinese scholar, every day did 3 things
1) Wrote daily on whoever or whatever inspired him,ie learn from whoever he met.
2) Read history and learnt from the ancestors.
3) Soak his feet in warm water daily. This action can maintain a healthy body. With a healthy body then a person can perform all his role well.
A Japanese entrepreneur who gave up his business and become a monk, ever said 6 things to be diligent in
1) Give effort not lesser than others?
Normally we don't know we are blessed, until we lost something we have.The more effort we put, the higher abilities we have.
2) Be thankful as being alive.
How many people we should be thankful? From the rice we eat, the clothes we wear etc.There are so many people involved throughout the whole processes, hence the people we need to thank are too many.
Have we ever think of others' kindness?
Any hatred or ill wills on others, is like rubbish that should be throw away.
3) Always retrospect
Every day retrospect,any mistake I have done today? Whee should I change, so that I can progress? Have my wisdom upgraded? Have my worries reduced? if I have learn well today, my wisdom will be upgraded.If no learning, I will be remain at same level.If I am not learning well, I will be down graded.
4)Be humble
5)Always doing good deeds in order to benefit others.
eg give a warm smile to others and suitable greetings,queuing up, offer our seats in public
transport to those needy.
6)Do not have sentimental worries.
This can be done by not worrying unnecessarily. Do not sighed easily.Every thought is a seed for the fruit that are going to be reap in future,hence should think positively.Hence if we want to know future result, we should ask ourselves how much effort, we really put in?
Theb result of our job =Model of our thinking X passion X ability
Those who are loyal, will think of ways to do things in better ways.This will increase extra credits to their life.
Always think of others, always respect others.Eg if we care about our mother earth, we will use both side of the papers We will even used old model of hand phone for 7 to 8 years. This is the virtue of being thrifty.
Teacher Chai asked us to give ways to other when we leave the hall later,But do not to the extend that thinking of wanting accumulate good merits, both side also refuse to move and block the traffic.For those who go first, should say thank you to those who give ways.
We should treasure everything, including switching off light whenever we leave a room, check tap water and all switch for lights/fans are off when we are leaving our house.These good habits will internalize to be kind hearted which will benefit us for our whole life.
We should treat all our kids equally, without discriminations. Those we ignored, will feel inferior.Those we pamper, will be arrogant.
Don't differentiate, not attach, as all are 1 family.
We should extend our care to every living beings, eg before pouring hot water into a mug, make sure there is no ants inside the mug.While walking, watch our step,so that we will not step on any insects.As every living beings are scare of dying too. Master Hong Yi, used to rock his rocking chair before he lied on it as scared he would kill any insect accidentally.
We must not spreading any bad news, instead must propagate kind actions.
Worry about future is an irresponsible act as we ignore our current duty.
The above is talk given by Teacher Chai Li Xu at Chung Hwa Cultural Centre on 19.9.2011
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